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Great
Expectations
by George Anderson
The
one word I fear most, in the entire English language, is the word
"expectation." The word implies that we have some control over
a world we have absolutely no control over. Yet, amid
all this chaos, we have the expectation that things will go a
certain way. Sometimes the expectation is justified--if you
throw the ball into the clown's mouth 5 times out of 5 tries, then
there is a reasonable expectation you will make 6. But I have
found in my years of communication with the souls, that if you have
the expectation to throw words into the souls' mouths, then
expectation is bound to let you down.
I have been very lucky
in my 40 or so years of working professionally as a medium, that the
percentage of people who walk away from a session happy hovers
around 98 percent. I truly believe that it is not because of
anything special on my part--it's just that 98 percent of the people
who come to see me truly want only to hear from their loved ones,
without any expectation of what the souls may or may not communicate
about. They only want to know that the souls actually are
there, that they are happy and at peace, and that they continue to
follow us on the earth.
But there will always
be those few appointments where nothing the souls say will help, and
people feel let down by the communication because it didn't address
the issues they came to hear about. Worse than that, for a
rare few, their feeling is that the session was a total failure.
There is good and bad news after a session like that--the good news
is that these few people's believe in their loved ones remains
intact, and the bad news is that it's all my fault. I frankly
would rather blame me than their loved ones for the inability of the
session to go their way. But it will never change the fact
that in all the things the souls can tell us, there are things
that they simply can't do, no matter how much we expect they will.
And no matter what I do or say, I have understood from the souls a
long time ago that I cannot make the souls say what the sitter wants
to hear.
I recently had a woman
come to see me hoping to hear from her father. He came through
talking about a mistake she made on the earth, and how she was going
to have to let it go and accept the consequences. He had some
real words of wisdom for her, and talked at length, trying to help
her to help herself. It became obvious near the end of the
session that this woman had no intention of taking this advice, and
it was more obvious that she certainly did not want to hear it.
Needless to say, the session, in her eyes, was a failure, and all
her father (and myself for that matter) can do is hope that at some
point in her life, the words will ring true in her heart. But
it was obvious she did not want to hear advice from her father--she
wanted facts, directions, and specifics as to how to direct her
life. I suppose if she were coming for her own needs and to
have her life figured out for her, then I agree--the session was a
failure.
We cannot expect in
sessions that the souls will say what we want to hear, do what we
want to do, and fix whatever is broken in our lives. What they
do, instead, is give us the courage to face a new direction, or to
help us understand a different way of thinking from their unique
vantage point. But those who think the souls will cater to
them--actually rather, pander to them, will find themselves
very quickly and very thoroughly disappointed in the sessions.
The souls will never take away from us the very reason why we are
here--to walk the walk, live the life, put out the fires or accept
the consequences when we can't. This is our road, our life,
our struggle, our accomplishment.
You had no idea what I
was going to write about this month. You have a reasonable
expectation that it will be something about life hereafter, and
something helpful, but you can't expect me to address every issue in
the universe, or make me write what you were hoping to read.
You can't expect that because I am human, I have my own thought
process, and my own ideas. I wonder what happens to people
when they forget that their loved ones still have their own thought
process, and that they are still human. The souls don't become
mindless beings whose only job is to "fix" us--they understand
better than we do that life here is our own journey--they can help
as much as they can try, but the rest is up to us to live it and do
it. The souls do the best they can in every circumstance to
help us feel loved, cared about, and they try to offer their
thoughts and ideas to us--not to change our direction, but rather,
to give us a direction. So that we understand we are all
walking toward something, regardless of the path.
I find the sessions
that don't go well for the sitter are not any different from the
ones that do. The souls talk, they help, they prod, they do
whatever they can. I truly think the difference is our intent
in coming to the session, and the manner in which we perceive and
accept what the souls have come hoping to help us understand.
Some sitters are selfish--they have no interest in the souls insofar
as how much the souls can clue them into some part of their own
lives. I know they believe their reasons for hearing from the
souls are good and forthright, but at the end of the hour (and
sometimes longer, since I see the unresponsive faces and
dejected looks, and my own human nature tries to pry more
information from the souls) the souls did not do enough for them, no
matter how much they actually did say. I have often said that
the souls will help us--they will give us the keys, the map and the
car, but they will not drive for us. That is entirely up to
us. We cannot have the expectation that the souls, now that
they have figured it all out for themselves, will figure it out for
us as well. The souls know far too well that our struggles,
and how we overcome them, is the true test on the earth, and they
cannot help us cheat. They can do and say so much during a
session, but if we don't find it useful, if we don't take their
perspective into account or understand why they can and cannot
address some issues, then it has no value to us. I find that
is the saddest part of these "failures"--that because the sitters
key issue is not examined, or ongoing problems resolved, then all
the words of the souls have no value. So in that sense, it
really is a failure, and a tremendous waste of the souls' time and
energy.
If you ever decide to
have a session with a medium, think carefully. Think about why
you want to come, examine your own motivation, and realize the souls
have their own mind and their own way of helping. It may not
be your way, but it is a way worth hearing. All the
communication from the souls, no matter how insignificant to why we
have come in the first place, is of vital importance to our journey
here. They know a lot more than we do about life on earth,
because they lived it to completion and gained the reward for a job
well done. Examine your own expectations, and if you
have any that involve putting words in the souls' mouths, then don't
go. The only expectation necessary to have is that your loved
ones will work very hard to bring you comfort and hope. All in
all, not a terrible thing to expect. |
